Grief, Loss, & Change Education, Plus New Tools for Self Reflection & Care
Hard feelings are some of the toughest to actually feel. Especially now.
Why? We aren’t confident about how to do it, plus, we don’t want to feel them anyway. Our human brains, naturally and often, shy away from feeling pain and change.
Plus, we’ve been taught to choose distraction, avoidance, reaction, and resistance.
We may think something is wrong with us that we have feelings of anger, sadness, disappointment, resentment, and blame.
Very few people, maybe no one in our world, is willing to listen and hear us talk about a lost loved one, ambiguous concerns of feeling lost or adrift, or lingering emotional hurts after a short period of time.
We make our feelings of guilt mean that we are “bad” because we haven’t been taught any other option. We don’t know any better. And neither do most people around us.
So grief, loss, loneliness, and isolation stay with us. It hasn’t been witnessed or felt because we haven’t been taught how to do it.
It’s critical that you learn and understand what grief is, and what it isn’t, as a life skill.
Thoughts & Feelings Management
Manageable & workable education about our bodies and our minds and how they work together (and how they sometimes don’t).
Specifically… What are thoughts? What are feelings? How do they work in different parts of my brain?
It sounds so obvious, and almost absurd, but we haven’t been taught how to think in a way that helps us assess what’s going on in our minds.
If our brains offer 40,000-60,000 thoughts each day, and we do, some management is only going to be helpful.
Would it surprise you to know that each and every thought creates a specific feeling?
Without doing the math, it’s easy to see that we’ve already got a lot going on each day in terms of thoughts and feelings, right? No wonder overwhelm is at an all-time high these days… without even trying.
Here's where it gets important:
We humans take most of our actions based on feelings.
Consciously and unconsciously, this is what we do. And it’s not wrong, but it can really help us keep what’s painful, stay stuck, and bypass our dreams due to fear and resistance or avoidance.
Many of us are resistant to our feelings or checked out from them… but we are still taking action (or maybe it’s inaction) based on feelings, (yep, which are generated by our thoughts)
We don’t trust our thinking or our feelings on our own.
We’ve been taught what to think and what to feel…but not how
It’s really important that you learn how to think and feel for yourself…this is a gentle path to self care, self-esteem, self-confidence.
What If You Knew How To:
Gently and efficiently assess thoughts and feelings to gain maximum understanding, value, and then make a clear decision in your own best interest?
Deconstruct anxiety, worry, guilt, blame, and resentment?
Process a life event, relationship, or loss without judgment or shame, based on facts?
Neutralize the negative thoughts and feelings that naturally occur?
Take your own side and offer yourself generous comfort - from a place of trust - when you are grieving a loss or a change?
Process challenging feelings and attentively feel even more joy and peace when you intentionally process good feelings?
Engage in support that will witness the processing of your pain and loss?
Create and step into a new feeling of aliveness, on demand?
Release emotional pain?
What would that do for you in your life, heart, relationships, business or work?
This is what we explore, share, and practice inside this membership program.
So, What IS the Heart Healing from Loss Program?
And what’s in it?
Let’s start with what it is.
This brand new program is a monthly membership and offers a series of courses with an invitation to not only go at your own pace, but also to choose your own adventure.
Each day is different. Every loss, each change, is different. We don’t always have all the space and time to do all the things, or go through all the videos in a module.
Some days we Just. Don’t. Have. It.
This program was created with this in mind.
I offer a gentle approach, a light touch, some humor, my own stories and experiences, and the expertise to walk, witness, and ask the next question or (when asked) offer another perspective.
What's Inside the Heart Healing from Loss Program?
It’s important that you know that new material w
ill be continually shared and uploaded into each of the Founding Courses
5 Foundation Courses:
These are the foundational lessons, the broad strokes of Grief Education and Thoughts & Feelings Management.
Guilt, Blame, and Resentment
These feelings are whoppers. AND we humans can get stuck and often stay stuck without knowing how, or what, to release the pain of it. These are feelings that drain us of energy, block our power, and don’t feel good at all. Yep, we need a deep dive course on these.
enCOURAGEment… because growth takes guts™
These are stand-alone lessons based on some of the most common, challenging, negative, and painful thoughts I’ve seen in my work, but have also thought and felt myself. If you are in a place where you need to send an SOS, the lessons inside are right on time for you.
When You Don’t Have the Words
When we are feeling loss, we are often at a loss for words. Feelings of frustration, confusion, and concern can come about. This entire course is dedicated to tools, guidance, and care when you just don’t have the words.
Advanced Self Care
Stay with me now. You can’t be “bad at self care” and still practice the Advanced lessons. I won’t spoil it, but I will share that Advanced Self Care is something you’ve always been able to do each and every day without paying for anything extra… you just haven’t learned it… yet.
A weekly Private Podcast and a weekly Coaching Call are also included. These elements are for members only.
Yes. For you.
Courses are updated regularly with new lessons.
What else is coming?
New Courses are already planned and being prepared for release this year. Yep, especially for navigating the Holidays, Observances, and Anniversaries of all kinds.
Plus, a book is being written too. Due out in early 2023.
The Tools We’ve Been Given Are Largely Myths and Stories
What I saw around me when I was going through a lot of my losses just didn’t resonate, didn’t feel good, and didn’t actually give any guidance or care for what else I could possibly be thinking, feeling, or doing.
When people around me lovingly shared that I should, “Give it time,”
I saw live examples of people still carrying around
DECADES later. So, more time was not the answer for me when I was in pain about a breakup.
When I lost a job I loved (and was good at) due to misappropriation of a budget by leadership, I felt betrayal, guilt and shame by association, plus financial insecurity as I had just bought my first condo 2 months before. Those around me were interested in hearing about the drama, the details, the “true crime” if you will, but they didn’t know how to hold a space for me to share my feelings.
They intellectualized and shared that, “I’d do better next time.”
Well meaning? Yes.
Emotionally helpful? No
Did I need more “alone time” or “me time” and isolation when I stopped drinking alcohol?
Being alone with a brain that was in withdrawal and navigating how to “do life” in a new way was not going to set me up for success on that one.
I am not a therapist, doctor, clinical provider or any kind. I offer education and coaching only. Decisions are always yours to make. Results you receive, based on your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions, are yours alone.
This membership is not suitable or designed for those suffering suicidal ideation, those hoping that a membership here would replace or work as an intervention.
If you need or desire clinical, medical, or additional help, please seek it out directly. More support is better than less.